You Can Have it All, I Think

Hello, my friend! I hope you are well, in every sense of the term.

I have been reflecting a lot lately, on this notion that I feel has been drilled into us for forever: you can’t have it all. Parents caution children about it, teachers caution students, employers caution employees, and so on and so on. Honestly, that sentiment has never sat well with me, I was always of the mind that though that might be true for everyone else, that I was different. That if anyone could figure it out, it would be me. Cocky? Perhaps. Arrogant? Potentially. Truthful? Absolutely.

I was extremely fortunate to have parents who constantly pumped my tires, and told me - and my brothers - that we could do literally anything we put our minds to. That is powerful stuff, I have come to learn. The only real limits we have are the ones we place on ourselves - outside of the laws of physics, of course.

That thought, that I can do literally anything, is and has always been at the same time freeing and world-crushingly overwhelming. If I could do anything, what do I want to do? Spoiler alert: still haven’t answered that question fully, but recently, I am the closest I have ever been. This blog and this business feel very much like home right now, which is odd for how new and unfamiliar it all is. I take that as a great sign. I feel happy and joyful and just full in general. The other day it hit me… it kind of feels like I have it all. But that can’t be right, because everyone always says you can’t have it all, don’t they?

My opinion is that, in fact: you can. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise! That sentence was conjured up by miserable people who hated their job and maybe their life, and wanted to make themselves feel better about it. Truly.

I do recognize that it is likely partly to help discourage greed; if you can’t have it all and you don’t have it all, then you can still be grateful for what you’ve got. I believe though that you can still be grateful for what you have while you strive and fight for more.

Let me be clear, though - you can have it all, when you’re tapped in to who you are and what you want to offer this world and, I believe, are living that out. Then you’ll really have it all.

If you want lots of money and a fancy car to cruise around for chicks, or dudes, or both, or neither (I don’t judge, and I see you), then you’ll likely never have it all. Why? Because none of those things will make you feel whole. There will be an emptiness inside that you can’t place or shake if this is all you pursue. Serving your higher purpose and being unapologetically who you are, on the other hand, you might be onto something.

I urge you to go nourish your soul, face your demons (with help, if you need it) see what comes up for you, and let me know in the comments or on social media! It likely won’t be easy, in fact it may be one of the hardest things you’ve ever done, but what it will also be, is worth it. You deserve it!

Wishing you unapologetic happiness and nourishment,

Your friend,

Heather